Relax and take a deep breath. Clear your mind. Use your intuition to explore your illness.
First of all, look for negative emotions or unfairness in the situation around you. Negative emotions are signs of misunderstanding. When this occurs it will eat away at you and generate problems, which can be health problems.
The principle is this: where there is pain there is misperception; where there is misperception there is misunderstanding.
Examine your life , both past and present. If something hurts, even if it was the past, you have brought the pain and misunderstanding into the present.
Go back two years before the onset of your illness and makes a list of all the painful situations in your life that occurred between that point and the present.
Next to each situation write what the emotional pain was, and also the misconception and misunderstanding that you made (you should have three columns: ‘Situation’, ‘Emotional Pain’ and ‘Misperception and Misunderstanding’).
Later you may wish to make another list of all the significant misunderstandings and painful experiences in your whole life.
While this may take a little study, it is very worthwhile. Learning to think in this way can save you years of pain where, from a position of righteousness, you might have felt that someone caused you pain or aggravation.
If you feel bad, then you are responsible, because you have misperceived and misunderstood.
Next, ask yourself how the situation, pain and misperceptions serve you.
- What self-image are you using this to re-enforce?
- What does it allow you to do?
- What is it you don’t have to do?
- What are you using it to hide from?
- Who are you attacking with this self-image?
- When you attack yourself with this self-image, how much narcissism and spitefulness is there in it?
- What excuse does this self-image give you?
As your understanding develops, you may begin to realize the extent to which you have been using emotional pain as a defense, especially against fear.
Once you realize that emotional pain is part-and-parcel of an ego strategy, mistake or misunderstanding, you can begin to understand the situation and make another choice.
Ask yourself the following questions about the disease itself, and the misunderstanding beneath it, trusting the answers that spontaneously come into your mind:
- With whom do you have the misunderstanding that needs to be healed?
- What is the misunderstanding about?
- How have you used the misunderstanding?
- What purpose does it serve for you?
Allow the energy of your understanding to fill you. Build a bridge of love and connection to the person with whom you have the misunderstanding, instead of using them for some purpose that can only hold you back.
Build bridge after bridge until you feel love and bonding completely restored. Ask your higher mind to give you understanding. You will know when this occurs by the peace, compassion and self-value you will feel.
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From 'Healing the Body Through Mind and Metaphor'
© Chuck Spezzano and Janie Ticehurst 2005
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