The foundation and key to healing all illness is Forgiveness . The opposite of forgiveness is grievance, which only leads us to illness and pain. Where we have grievance and judgment, we attack ourselves and are aggressive toward others. This blocks receiving and success.
While we may hide and deny our grievances, if we didn’t have any then we would have no problems. Grievances are the root of fighting and revenge, and if we indulge in them we will inevitably end up getting hurt.
Forgiveness, on the other hand, is a giving forth that re-establishes contact, bonding and understanding. This allows us to make peace with others and ourselves. It is through this connection of forgiveness that ease, resolution, truth and fulfillment occur.
What we forgive in others we forgive in ourselves, transforming how we perceive events and circumstances that originally molded the grievance. Without buried self-attack, we give up judgment, feeling only compassion for those who have made mistakes.
Forgiveness frees us from our hidden guilt and self-attack; we no longer see others as worthy of condemnation and punishment. Forgiveness brings grace, change and progress to all involved. It wipes the slate clean, bringing about transformation for us and whoever we are forgiving. Forgiveness heals negative patterns, especially victim patterns, and brings confidence and joy.
The dynamic of forgiveness is that in forgiving another, we forgive ourselves for our own mistakes that we judged as crimes and thought that we had committed. In seeing others as innocent, we see ourselves as innocent as well. By not holding someone’s actions against them, we avoid holding it against ourselves. Thus our forgiveness frees and heals us both.
Forgiveness is one of the many healing principles we can use to improve our health. Forgiveness heals fear, releases judgment and grievance, and resolves guilt and self-attack, all of which are key dynamics of illness.
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From 'Healing the Body Through Mind and Metaphor'
© Chuck Spezzano and Janie Ticehurst 2005
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